I recently discussed food addiction and the comparison to drug and alcohol addiction. The techniques I use are viable for gamblers, smokers and anyone else that fits the bill.
Cognitive behaviour, mindfulness and life balance are the keys to this change.
I concluded that all addictions are bad habits. (I understand that severe withdrawal is outside the scope of discussion here, but my techniques are viable once hospitalised treatment has concluded, My aim is not to belittle severe withdrawal but to show the difficulty seen with food)
To some extent maintenance of good eating habits are the most difficult as we have to eat. Hence abstinence isn't a possibility.
Absence from unhealthy eating habits is required to succeed in a healthy diet and lifestyle. This means learning cognitive behaviours that promote moderation and control.
Food, drug and alcohol addicts all need to decide to change. Dieters that embark on yo-yo diets need to realise that this is not progressive.
Drugs though having both physical and psychological withdrawal are the least available commercially, the difficulty here is they often fit into social calendars, so the temptations do crop up. Poor living environments also provide difficult challenges. But in general dealers can be avoided and the availability is more restricted.
Alcohol I believe is more difficult due to the availability, it is a socially accepted drug, and peer pressure is very often strong.
Bad food habits are the hardest; The temptations are continual, diets and advice continually change. In general preparation, variation and moderation are the essential elements of success.
I can inform you that the cravings and urges during a strict bodybuilding diet (or early stages of yogic fasting) are as intense and contain physical needs very similar to both drugs and alcohol. As the stomach groans and the mind goes into serious thought mode, the temptations to lapse into bad habits are as intense as any drug or alcohol cravings I have ever had, the wrong decisions can occur in a split second, then we wander now the avenue of disappointment, guilt and many associated feelings.
Hence my desire to treat food as an addiction, obsession or lousy habit (choice of words are irrelevant).
I will follow this up with techniques and strategies to overcome.
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Today the internet is filled up with goal setting techniques;
I recently read a great book, that combined with some of my methods revolutionise the progress. I practice all these skills myself and believe that results are guaranteed.
1, The ideas incubator
Ideas come into our heads from all angles. Some fantastic, some mediocre and many ghastly. Our interest here in those fabulous thoughts that could change the world or at least some of our much smaller spheres.
Those ideas that catch our attention I note down. Then I let them stew for two days or so.
Because the ideas put in my "storage box", I can late revisit the ideas to see what holds true. Most decisions don't require immediate action, so if they have survived this period, then I can plan later.
2. The research.
These great ideas then get to my research box/list that will stay active until either completed or deleted. (no longer valid) I try to review every couple of days, but primarily I'm looking at researching on the most promising. There is no order for this, though I tend to do what appeals most at the time. If I am passionate about a particular idea, then that is where the best results will materialise. It's results that I want.
3. A mindful approach, and using focus appropriately.
By putting my ideas on the list, I stop actively thinking about the subject matter. Trying to leave that thought process to the research phase.
By doing this, I can accomplish tasks (a later step).
All through adopting this streamlined process, over time it becomes second nature.
4. Choose technique for your goal setting.
The most common technique follows the S.M.A.R.T. goal approach and has proved successful for many people. However, it also sets you up for possible failure, here is an outline.
S - (specific, simple, sensible, significant, stretching
M - measurable, meaningful, motivating
A - agreed upon, achievable, attainable, acceptable, action-oriented
R - realistic, relevant, reasonable, rewarding, results-based
T - time-based, time-bound, timely, tangible, trackable, time-sensitive.
I prefer goal setting by action planning; this plan removes the stress. I define a workable program of activities to achieve the desired result. What it also prevents is the constant "beating myself up." when I don't meet a deadline.
I set myself achievable, diary-based tasks where I actively work towards specific goals, based on time allocation.
Because I use focused work sessions, I am confident that I achieve a reasonable work rate and acceptable results.
NO PULLING MY HAIR OUT. (not that I have much anyway)
I consistently work fifty-plus hours a week (very often a lot more) and the second method wins for me, but I suggest you try both to gauge your results.
5. Finally, my daily debrief, this is an end of work session signing off process. I detail successes of the day, things that I have learnt from, subjects that require more research and look over my diary for the next day. This process signs me off so that I can free my mind till the following days start of business.
My goals are targeted primarily at fulfilling my vision; I split mine into short/medium and long-term. Aligning goal setting with personal values is paramount to success.
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With my clients I want them to achieve success, I view my client's life as if it was my own, but without all the layers that many of us have below the surface
Yes, that right, no limiting beliefs, no previous failures, no doubts that you are not good enough, no partner putting obstacles in the way. Just an X-ray bird's-eye view.
From here I can put viewpoints and suggestions forward, explore avenues from a different perspective and get you THINKING. And good thinking/brainstorming is the start of new IDEAS.
So all this means you can change, (I presume that all clients want to achieve success and BE BETTER)
You will get clarity in your thinking, start planning your actions, write down goals and then set achievable habits to reach them. (no completion date as we don't want failures)
Time limits also add to our stress levels, which is not good for progression. You will leave a session with a clear objective of what you must do. All you have to do is follow the steps to completion.
My Job is to assist you in becoming BETTER, so I will suggest anything that I believe can help you. Yes, I may even upset you, What I give is the TRUTH, and hopefully, you have a way of improving that truth.
Some actions you take will be so subconscious that you are not even aware of them,
I promise to make you aware, soon that self-awareness will lead you on a constant path to improvement.
Isn't that what you want?
No Human is perfect. Say this;
"I am not perfect and can make mistakes."
That means that you are FREE to try anything, and can then learn from your mistakes. You now have freshly acquired knowledge. Did the error hurt? Are you dead? Probably not.
But being free to make mistakes means you can try new things, explore new grounds and THRIVE in your existence.
You will also come to believe in yourself, gain increased self-confidence and awareness. And by being better, success will materialise.
So how does having a Lifecoach save you money?
I don't let my clients hide from anything. Yes, you have to face your life head on, No bills shoved in the bottom drawer, nothing consistently delayed till another day. You will want to face life head-on.
Yes, you will want to.
Once you get up to date with your life, you will want to stay there. Procrastination, a habit of the past.
How about organising ourselves, our lives should have structure, like a well-oiled machine. We dislodge the crap, get rid of those time-wasting activities that are so unproductive. And replace them with habits that align with our goals.
What about FUN?
Fun is 100% necessary. It just requires restructuring to include events that aid our progress.
Maybe outings planned to help gain suitable contacts, days out that help educate our kids and activate their thinking. Fun is not out; we just develop methods on how it can be better.
I also like accountability coaching. I hope that after you have reshaped your life, you want to continue a lifetime of self-discovery.
Unfortunately, however much you try, old ways are notorious for sneaking back in. We just organise short recaps to help dislodge the reoccurring or obstructive habits.
So are we clear on how a Life coach can save you money?
I suggest you reread the article. But this time imagine that you have already committed to the above.
What is your answer?
Life-Coaching is starting to take off in a big way.
In today's modern, bustling society, that is hurtling into the unknown depths of a digital era, ruled by social media, smart technological and robotic enhancements.
Most of us just exist, ploughing from day to day, completing tasks as we see fit, absorbed in daily activities that control us, responding to others, without consulting the wise mind, (a combination of rational, and considered emotive thought)
As a Skilled Helper (Life-coach) my job is simple, my client has a problem or many, and they require a solution. I need to help them to understand the depth of their problem and guide them to a workable solution.
So whats in my virtual toolbox?
I am a problem solver; I use verbal tools to guide my client to clarity. After gaining this clarity, it is my clients choice on how they implement the acquired knowledge, this part I have no control over, and this can be hugely frustrating.
My toolbox contains frameworks obtained from Life-Coaching, Cognitive behaviour and Neuro-Linguistic-Programming, I also maintain a MINDFUL approach to existence that promotes focused activity sessions, This I believe can assist all, This is in addition to a lifetime of varied experiences, and mistakes that I do my utmost not to repeat.
What are breakthrough sessions and other forms of Life -coaching?
Breakthroughs are my favourites. I use my toolbox to get the client from the perceived problem to a solution. These usually require a minimum of two hours and can take considerably longer. The usual format is a discussion regarding needs and outcomes, exploration of what prevents relief and if it is achievable, beliefs that hamper the solution, checking the client's values and the alignment to their future. Goals and habits that provide a strategy for a successful outcome.
Complications occur as the perceived problem is very often is not the actual one.
This session is usually conversational, though questioning techniques often occur that take can take the client out of their comfort zone. Sometimes essential as I work for results, which is why clients visit me.
More structured coaching sessions start with exploring the client's life balance, the discovery of a life purpose, checking personal values in the form of a values elicitation. Outlining and disputing any beliefs that prevent a positive outcome, inputting of habits, short, mid and long-term goals that help achieve the vision of the clients life-purpose.
These require a minimum of 4-6 sessions. But can take more depending on requirements and complications. I promote accountability sessions that continue into the future though this isn't always wanted or required, I would suggest these to be twice a year.
Outlined this means that the prospective client decides to make some changes in their life, they discuss possible outcomes in the above structure, start implementing their conclusions in daily life, then have the opportunity of accountability sessions to check progression and weed out the garbage that is preventing a streamlined approach.
If you think any of this has benefits I'm here to help. I offer a free taster session to discuss basics, where we can plan a future strategy.
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So you have passed/completed your coaching or practitioner courses, and now you want to earn some CASH.
Getting them first customers is not always easy, you've created a lovely website, started blogging and writing articles, and splashing yourself all over social media,
and waiting, more waiting and more.
I first started coaching people suffering from addictions, and then moved onto emotional and behavioural recovery, with limited success at first, this was mostly to do with my early clients were without credible funds, so couldn't afford my services.
I did, however, gain valuable experience and became confident in my abilities. and as my friend, Kain Ramsay would put it
"I was earning my stripes."
So blogging and trying to gain the attention of customers, how did I go about it.
Step I - I purchased https://app.grammarly.com; my written English is far from perfect
Step 2 - I started profiling myself, so I was consistent over all platforms (i am still updating this)
Step 3 - I started posting regularly, and am currently testing bulk editing tools, Buffer is doing ok at present. https://buffer.com
Step 4 - Tracking my performance suddenly became important, https://app.bitly.com is fantastic for this, it not only shortens URLs but lets you track the clicks on them.
Step 5 - become a publisher of affiliate links, This lets you earn through click-throughs, I'd advise everyone following the above steps to get involved.
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As a professional coach, I try to make sure that my client's values are aligned, to the goals that they set themselves, this is accomplished through a "Values elicitation" which is a renown Neuro-Linguistic Programming technique.