As a helper, my goal is to get clients from
A---- problem/conflict to
We all can and do collect bad habits, what we need
is a 3rd person perspective to challenge what develops
Into an unhealthy lifestyle. Coaching involves
having defined achievable goals that are accountable,
and trackable, and it also means cleaning out the garbage.
What is Addiction?
I would say that addiction is an unwanted habit that people become unable to break, this could be purely psychological (gambling is an example) or physical (alcohol is a prime example.)
Both types require the addicted person to accept the necessity to change and to take responsibility for their life. Physical addiction can need medical care to overcome the immediate effects of physical withdrawal followed by short to long-term neurological adjustments particularly to neurotransmitters in the brain. Once the Physical addicted person has cleaned out their system of the toxins, it then becomes psychological, although the recovering addict's situation differs in that physical effects can still enter the equation.
I have what is frequently known as an addictive personality, I have subjected myself to excessive drinking and substance abuse, and tend to overindulge in anything that I enjoy. Examples include partying, sports, work, eating out, gambling, and many more. Most are now stopped or under control. What I tended to do was exchange one addiction (habit) for another to mask the original. For example, I'd quit drinking and indulge in 4 hours gym and fitness a day. I never considered moderation.
My hardest habit to break is the workaholic syndrome, I tend to have the motto of "my life is my work". Hence am I a workaholic? My career is now my passion, but I put breaks in, and plan outings involving family activities, although I find it very hard not to attend to work matters on my smartphone during an activities day. I also tend to change my hobbies into careers.
The maturity of character comes from owning our problems, and not blaming external forces for them. (I was on Koh Phi Phi Island in Thailand during the 2004 Tsunami, the devastation might have been the cause of my problems, (excessive drinking after the event). Half the island was annihilated, but blaming the Tsunami or my immediate dilemma would have been pointless. I accepted it had happened and got on with sorting the problems.
Helpers will get clients that have one or many destructive habits; A person usually approaches somebody for assistance when they are unable to find a solution. Humans very often fail to analyse themselves and being unaware can be bliss. I have tried helping many physical addicts (alcohol/drug related), and the frustrations are numerous. Some people, once free of their habit become active contributing members of society. My life mission at 53 years old is to be and stay one of these.
So to conclude, if a person shows maturity and willingness to change and is actively achieving this, they are a suitable client that I would enjoy having a working relationship with, as they have taken responsibility and are doing their best to become productive.
In my life, I find the best way of doing this is by helping others.
Do you also want to help people?